Dear Brother’s, Don’t Look Down On Her, Teach Her- Gabriel Onyema.
Lots of men don’t know how to correct their women when they go wrong in their relationship. Instead of educating her, he chooses to belittle her and because her natural instincts won’t allow that, she also tries hard to defend herself instead of admitting she was wrong.
If you are a man out there and fortunate to read this write-up, please take your time to educate your woman when she makes mistakes. In doing be careful of your choice of words, the tone and pitch of your voice. Be gentle with her, you don’t have to shout on her.
If you are angry at that time, it’s best you don’t say a thing and reserve your words for a better mood. Women are emotional and read deep meaning into words, tone and pitch.
You should also bear in mind that education does not take a day, it’s something you do for life so be patience with her. Instead of getting mad at her you should rather try to understand her.
You can best understand her when you allow her to explain herself why she did that. It’s better to give her audience rather than to shut her out. When you do that, you misunderstand her and that may become a reason for her to distance herself from you.
One very thing that turns a woman on is when her man teaches her things without making her feel she is dumb for not knowing or repeating past mistakes. If you can do that as a man, you become more attractive and she draws closer to you.
Ladies, there is a thin line between being confident and being arrogant. It’s called HUMILITY. You are confident when you are humble enough to admit you are wrong. Also because you don’t know it all, you don’t fully know the man you are with. He is the best person to point things out to you because he cares and loves you. Take that as an opportunity to work on them.
Anytime he points these mistakes to you, don’t just get angry or try to defend yourself but smile. You are filled with arrogance when you are not humble to admit but refuse, you don’t only smirk, but you also lose the happiness in the relationship.
Accepting your weakness makes you stronger and not weak as some people think. You are not ugly when you appreciate your flaws, it makes you beautiful. But above all, you become wise when you learn from your mistakes.
Every relationship struggles along it way to get to the state of a great relationship. This happens because the male and female are opposites and are not going to be same until the end of life. Living together equals working together. Working together equals learning from each other.
So have the wisdom to let go what your relationship does not need. Growing a relationship is not easy, it takes a lot of courage to grow it up to the state you really desire.
In conclusion “It is foolish to belittle one’s neighbor; a sensible person keeps quiet” – Proverbs 11:12 (NLT).